About Soren Lauritzen, Your Host: Playful Exploration and Life Alchemy

Hi there. 🙂

Soren Lauritzen, your host at sorenlauritzen.com

I’m Soren Lauritzen, explorer, author, blogger, teacher, guide in consciousness, allround playful guy (playfellow?) and your host at SorenLauritzen.com.

On this particular page I’m going to use the word “I” a lot, which annoys me and might annoy you too. It’s too bad, but there’s not a lot to do about it, because hey, this is an ‘About Me’ page.

This Is Me, Right Now

I examine, explore, explain, play around, make mistakes, learn and have fun. Right here on this website and everywhere else, too. I hope to present more wisdom and amusement than mistakes here, but you never know.

I do these things and write about them for the same reason the birds sing – because that’s what I do. I sing my particular song the way only I can sing it; for no other reason than it feels like the thing to do.

I do my thing and sing my song because it feels right.

 

I don’t subscribe to political correctness (or the opposite), or to conformity or non-conformity, or any political, religious, moral, ethical or philosofical points of view.

I have a perspective on life, one that’s not very common (yet), but that’s a function of my own personal experiences as well as what feels right to me, not a function of what experts or authorities claim or what is common and considered “normal”.

I don’t hold a lot of beliefs anymore, because I have deliberately been identifying them, examining them and getting rid of them (by letting go of them). Good riddance, too.

Just about the only thing I subscribe to anymore is being me, authentically.

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This currently means, like I said, that I like …

• playing around

• exploring and examining things for myself

• using critical thinking …

• … as well as my intuition

• making up my own mind

• doing what I like

• living the good life and

• having fun.

If asked for a piece of advice, I would suggest you do the same. It works for me.

A Renaissance Soul
Who Primarily Trusts His Own Judgement

Anyway. I am a renaissance type of guy with a voracious appetite for knowledge and understanding. In conjunction with what I just mentioned this means that I have to examine everything for myself, until I reach the point where I, myself (and not anybody else), am satisfied.

Incidentally, this also means that I have a history of being an expert, which is a really hard habit to kick. So … if (when) I sometimes end up sounding like a know-it-all, I do apologize in beforehand. I do NOT know it all. And I most emphatically don’t know anything about you and your particular life situation, so every time I use the word ‘you’ you might do well to take what I say with a grain of salt.

The Story of My Life (abridged version)

Okay. You want to know a bit more about me, right? So, let me tell you the story of my life:

PART ONE:
Danish flag "Dannebrog" by Jacob Bøtter CC attribute share alike license• I was born (in Denmark, Europe – Denmark on Wikipedia here,
or official national site here)
• grew up
• became a crazy teenager
• got over it
• didn’t know what to do next

PART TWO:
• took an MBA, Master of Business Administration (even if it didn’t really turn me on)
• wondered for years if MBA actually stood for Master of Boring Activities (hint: it does!)
• worked as a corporate project manager and business coach for many years
• made ‘good money’, and spent a lot, too – bought my first home
• wrote a couple of novels (published in Danish, so far only one has been translated into English)

PART THREE:
• had some totally unexpected ‘crazy’ experiences (with healing and such)
• went on a decade-long quest to understand myself, life, the universe and everything
• tried very nearly every self improvement technique available to me at the time …
• … including pretty much anthing that had a reputation for inducing consciousness
• went on lots of inner journeys, exploring consciousness
• worked on shedding lots of old beliefs, habits and patterns
• expanded my world view considerably
• expanded my consciousness enormously

PART FOUR:
• was touched by something related to spiritual enlightenment – it changed everything for me
• felt whole for maybe the first time since I was a child – and at peace most of the time, too
• noticed that everything, everywhere is already whole, too, nothing is missing
• noticed that the ‘internal chatter’ of my mind (thoughts) had been reduced by maybe 75%
• noticed a huge ‘gap’ between what’s “normal” and that-which-is (a more absolute version of reality)
• spent several years trying to put into words what I now understood

PART FIVE:
• continued working on letting go of old beliefs, habits and patterns
• stopped working in the corporate world
• started my own business working as a life coach, or more precisely: a consciousness guide …
• … as well as writing books, teaching, doing workshops and speaking publicly
• started making websites, calling myself the Personal Development Guy (that site still exists)
• I also blew off steam at a site called Smartass Self Help (I took that site down)
• … as well as at another one called Quotescoop (that site also still exists)

PART SIX:

Money - tower of 500 euro bills

• finally got FED UP with the constant focus on earning money, working and getting stressed
• so STOPPED! Just stopped, and …
• closed down my businesses
• sold my home
• cut down on expenses
• cut down on almost everything else, too
• stopped doing personal development, self help, self improvement and suchlike pandemonium
• took a long break … and slept a lot
• felt immense relief
• was surprised to discover that in stopping, cutting down, de-stressing and relaxing I had created ‘a simple life‘ for myself, something I would never have thought I’d be interested in
• was even more surprised to discover that I loved the simple life

PART SEVEN:
• realized that my whole life I’d been trying to live up to what (I thought) others were expecting of me …
• … and that included the time when I was self-employed (which surprised me)
• noticed that I could (still) see that-which-is and (still) had internal ‘wholeness’ inside myself, so …
• … decided I wanted a new life based on (external) ‘wholeness’ in the rest of my life, too
• considered calling it ‘wholeness in practice’, but ended up calling it ‘life alchemy’
• rebooted my life, starting from near scratch – maybe this time I’ll get it right!
• am now earning only what little I need …
• … whilst spending most of my time doing what I love for free, including …
• writing about it here on sorenlauritzen.com (and in books and other media)

So here I am. A free man intent on living a good life – according to my own definition. Not conformist or even non-conformist, but fully authentic.

Okay. Right. There, that wasn’t so bad.

You may have been thoroughly bored reading it, as was I at some stages along the way while living it (particularly while working in the corporate world), but I did manage to squeeze it down into less than a page. So at least I am satisfied. If you’re not, you can quit while you’re ahead, or just read on in the vain hope that it gets a bit more amusing further down.

Reading on, huh? Okay, then, what else do you want to know?

More Fun Facts about Soren

My favourite color?

Rainbow colors like flames on black - ribbon banner

Don’t have one. Some days I’m attracted to some colors, other days, other colors. I like dolphins, though. They’re kind of grey.

I also like cats and dogs. They can be many different colors. Here’s a video of a cat playing with dolphins:

Is this a closeup of a ripe banana or a cheetah?

I like bananas, too. They can actually look a bit like a big cat, like a cheetah, when they’re ripe, but that’s just one of the reasons why I like them.

I also like squirrels and trees, no matter what color. And pretty much anything that’s alive. Even spiders.

Okay, spiders are kind of ugly, and some of them are poisonous, but so are some humans. And at least spiders eat mosquitoes, which is more than the poisonous humans do.

So, yeah, not too keen on mosquitoes. I accept them and they have a right to be here just like the rest of us, but I prefer them to be somewhere I am not. If they do decide to be where I am, I reserve the right to smack them. So nope, I’m not fully enlightened yet, so sue me.

But back to the things I like.

Drawing of fountain pen and red love heart: I love writing

In case you haven’t noticed yet I like writing. I looove writing.

And exploring, experimenting, and playing around and having fun.

Occasionally I (still) like public speaking, or being in charge of a workshop, or playing at being a teacher, or guiding people (in consciousness).

I also like creating an even better life for myself – life design, life alchemy – it’s surprisingly good fun.

Mostly, though, I like being me, exploring, playing and writing.

Dolphin jumping in the sunsetOh, and sunshine, I love sunshine. Too bad there’s so little of it here in Denmark, where I live.

But now that I have most of my time to myself I make it a point to go outside when the sun’s out. I SO missed being able to do that when I worked in the corporate world.

But now I can do it whenever I want, ha!

Right.

Now you know everything there is to know about me.

 

Juuust One More Fun Fact about Soren

Oh yeah, there’s one more thing:

Today I see myself, you and all of life as a unified whole.

In fact, what I see is one self-contained wholeness (like an ecosystem) inside another, inside anoter, and so on … apparently into infinity and right back again. Is that weird?

Here’s how weird it is … are you ready for a look inside my head? (Brace yourself).

A Look Inside Soren’s Head

I sort of see a really, really (really!) big circle of all these small and gradually larger and larger self-contained ‘wholenesses’ (again: sort of like ecosystems).

The circle starts (and ends) at the sub-subatomic level which is like an infinite field. Self-contained, of course.

The Infinite Field

This field, which some people call the quantum essence, is everywhere, always. Which makes it very interesting, because it means that it’s both very, very, very small AND very, very, very big. It is, in fact, simultaneously the smallest AND the biggest thing anywhere, ever.

This infinite field is the field of endless possibilities, both manifest (like particles, bananas, humans, dolphins and galaxies) and not-yet manifest.

This field doesn’t just have unlimited consciousness and intelligence (and humor), it IS unlimited consciousness and intelligence (and humor) … and it is everything else too. “Everything else too” includes lots of highly improbable and downright impossible things which may or may not exist, have existed or come to exist, at some point, in some universe, somewhere.

It’s quite a field.

Itsy-bitsy Teeny-Tiny Things

Anyways, nothing is smaller (or bigger) that this infinite field, so looking at the smallness of it, this field, the quantum essence, exists inside quarks.

Quarks are the smallest particles we currently know of. (This does not, of course, mean there aren’t some even smaller particles down there, before we get down to the infinite field).

Pinwheel galaxy M101 in Ursa Major by NASA and ESAThe quarks exist inside the protons, neutrons and electrons …
… which exist inside the the atoms …
… which are inside molecules …
… which are inside cells …
… which are inside organs …
… which are inside … and so on up to …
… solar systems …
… galaxies …
… galaxy clusters (which are galaxies of galaxies, a.k.a. super galaxies) and …
superclusters (which are large groups of galaxy clusters – i.e. galaxies of galaxies of galaxies a.k.a. super-super galaxies- and pretty much the biggest things in the physical cosmos – that we know of right now).

If there are super-superclusters and super-super-superclusters, and so on … which there might very well be … it hardly matters, because most of our minds have already been blown one, two or even several sentences ago.

But beyond all that bigness – meaning inside all that bigness AND outside all that bigness – lies the infinite field, the quantum essence.

And so the circle, from the smallest to the biggest and back to the smallest, is complete. Inside my head, and now perhaps also inside yours. Good luck with that.

That’s What’s Inside Soren’s Head

Aaaanyway. This way of looking at life, the universe and everything is an effect of personal development and of being touched by that thing related to spiritual enlightenment I mentioned. It kind of affects everything I do.

I told you it was weird.

The end. Yep, that’s it. Finally.

Thanks for reading. Hope you find something a little more useful somewhere else on this website. 🙂

Your host

Soren Lauritzen

 

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About This Website, sorenlauritzen.com

Hi there, and welcome to the page that tries to tell you what SorenLauritzen.com is all about.  🙂

The answer to that is easy: It’s about being human.

Of course, being human is easy, too. Anyone can do it. So I guess we’ll have to add some qualifiers to that statement:

This website is about being human and …

– loving it
– feeling whole, free, happy, loving, at peace, and experiencing meaning
– playfully expanding our consciousness and our understanding of ourselves and of life itself
– consciously creating what we prefer and desire, both inside ourselves and in our lives (life alchemy)

Picture quote by Soren Lauritzen: Let's love being alive and make life awesome!

If we can’t love being alive, what’s the point of it?

I mean, sure, we each have only a few scant years on planet Earth, so the suffering need not take long … but hey, why suffer at all?

Why not make those few years on this green and blue planet really, really cool, and wonderful, and altogether awesome?

So. To do that, to make our lives awesome, to consciously create our best life ever, what does it take?

 

 

How to Make Our Lives Awesome?

There are (at least) two answers to that question. One provided mostly by our ego, and one provided mostly by our essence or soul.

The difference is, one is complicated but fairly easy to understand (the ego’s answer), and the other one is simple but somewhat harder to comprehend (the soul’s answer). Let’s start with the simple one, the one that’s not so easy to fully comprehend:

The Soul’s Answer

To make our lives awesome we need to experience that-which-is (absolute reality). This includes that-which-is-us and that-which-is life.

So all you have to do is be who you truly are, live your life as yourself, and experience life as it really is.

That’s all.

Now, absolute reality (that-which-is) is most emphatically NOT the same as what 95% of humans alive today consider reality. What most people consider reality is relative reality, or personal reality, also called the ego’s reality, and nine times out of ten THAT is a reciepe for a lot of fear, loneliness, confusion and conflict. Not all the time, hopefully, but too much of the time.

Life as it really is does not distinguish between you, me and others. It does not distinguish between good and evil, or boring and interesting, or stupid and smart, or conservative or liberal, or any other perceived dichotomy. It contains all that, it accepts all that, it loves all that without reservation.

Life as it really is simply IS. Just like you and me – we aren’t good or evil, stupid or smart, we simply ARE.

When you see yourself, other people, life, the universe and everything the way everything actually IS then … everything changes. For the better. Much, much, MUCH better!

The Soul’s answer is simple, really. But sooo hard to comprehend, because THAT’S NOT WHAT WE’RE DOING, that’s not what our parents did, nor anyone around us, and we don’t understand what to be or do to ‘make it so’ (as Captain Picard in Star Trek would have said).

By experiencing absolute reality (that-which-is-us and that-which-is life) we make our lives awesome.

The Ego’s Answer

To make our lives awesome we need to figure out:

… which elements we humans consist of (like ego, essence/soul, physical body, energies, free will, beliefs, etc. etc.) and …

… which elements our lives consist of (like work life, private live, love life, sex life, family life, life as a whole, etc.).

Then we have figure out the relationships between them and the rules that govern these elements and relationships.

Then we need to discover how we can influence the results we’re getting.

And then we have to decide what we want and don’t want.

And THEN we have to be or do whatever it takes to achieve the results we desire.

Not quick, not easy, not simple. But it makes sense, right? It’s logical. And it CAN be a lot of fun, if you’re into figuring things out, exploring and experimenting. (Which, happily, I am).

SorenLauritzen.com’s Answer

… is a mix between the two answers above.

Personally, I am partial to the soul’s answer, because it’s so simple and clear and it works better than anything else, but I do have an ego, a pretty strong one at that, and I need to work with that – I suspect that it’s like that for many or most people.

So that’s how this website is going to work: the simplicity and clarity of the soul’s answer makes it the best one, and the one that all answers get measured against, but the ego’s complicated, detailed approach has merits, too, since we all have egos we have to live and work with.

This mixed approach between the soul’s and the ego’s answers is what I call life alchemy. We want to understand enough to create our best life ever. And like the alchemists of old we have lots to explore, explain and play around with.

The (Apparent) Gap Between Realtive Reality and That-Which-IS

As many mystics and everyday spiritual seekers will agree, it seems like there is this huge gap between

1) our “normal” everyday state of consciousness plus our “normal” everyday lives in general
and
2) the apparently ideal state of authentic consciousness and authentic way of living that flows naturally from the soul or essence.

We can thank our egos for that, of course. There is no actual gap, we just perceive one because we’re perceiving primarily through our egos. But that’s the situation right now, so that’s what we have to work with. Bridging the consciousness gap, you might call it.

By the way, I’m not one of those people who advocate “the extermination of the ego”. I don’t consider that idea any more helpful than an idea about “extermination of the physical body”. We have a physical body and we have an ego, they’re both there for a reason, and neither one is going away any time soon (hopefully). So we might as well make the best of our situation and love the body and love the ego for what they are. They have a lot to contribute, as does every single part of the wholeness that is each of us.

I Overuse the Word ‘Wholeness’

By the way, I use the word ‘wholeness’ a lot (in different ways, including some not-quite-gramatically-correct ones), because it’s important – and all-pervasive. There isn’t anything in existence that isn’t actually ‘a wholeness’ – from the smallest to the biggest. That also includes, you, me, everybody and everything else, including life itself (that’s a really big one).

Consciousness

Another word I use a lot is consciousness. The reason being that consciousness is just as important and all-pervasive as wholeness. Consciousness is everywhere: in you, me, life, the universe and everything. One might even go so far as to say that consciousness is what everything is made of, though THAT might actually be a quantum field of energy which is everywhere, all the time, and which just happens to be conscious.

Consciousness Revolution

And now that we’re at it let me mention that I occasionally talk about a consciousness revolution.

Picture quote by Soren Lauritzen: We humans are becoming more aware of that-which-is. It's a consciousness revolution, a paradigm shift.That is basically just us humans on a collective level becoming a bit more aware of that-which-is (reality in one of its more absolute aspects).

Put like that it doesn’t sound like much, but it’s actually kind of a big deal.

It’s a paradigm shift, and a big one at that. It will change everything, or to be exact: it is already happening and changing everything. Hence the words consciousness revolution.

The trouble is, we’re right smack in the middle of (the beginning of) this consciousness revolution right now, so we can’t see the forest for all those pesky trees.

But dig into the subjects of mysticism and quantum mechanics to see what I mean. Or, you know, just read more right here, on this website.

The Power of Play

Philosophically I’m very biased towards … play. Yes, play. Entertaining experimentation. Trying things out, testing things, having fun. Playing around is a philosophy for me. Why?

Because I think it’s a good idea. It’s a lot of fun; we never know what will happen next, so we stay mentally sharp, aware and rooted in the present; we get to make up our own rules or have no rules at all; we make lots of “mistakes” and learn an incredible amount along the way. In fact, when it comes to learning no better method than play even exists. Just look at kids – they have the most to learn and they do it by playing.

More power to the power of play!

A Decade of Personal Development – Time Well Spent or Wasted?

Ever since I gave up pretending to be “normal” and trying to live a “normal”, boring, empty, frustrating, depressing and conformist life, I’ve been doing more personal development and self improvement than most people do in their entire life.

Was that more than a decade well spent? In the end I have to say yes, because I like the result, but seriously, folks, you can get to where I am a lot faster than a decade. All you need are a few pointers, the RIGHT type of pointers, which is what this website is all about.

I have no way of knowing which pointers will make a difference for you, so I’ll just mention any and all that spring to mind and let you separate what you consider wheat from what you consider chaff.

Here’s an example …

Letting Go

In my quest for self discovery, self development and personal empowerment I was surprised to find that at a certain point – the one where what I was doing actually started to work – personal development turns into (non-religious) spirituality. Not by adding new information or know-how, but by letting go.

Picture quote by Soren Lauritzen: In personal development and spirituality start letting go (of everything) works best of all.

I let go again, and again, and again. Of this, and that, and everything I possibly could.

When we do that, when we keep letting go of everything, what happens at some point is this:

We suddenly reach our default level, our natural state.

Which is a grrrreat state of being!

It is a state of wholeness, happiness and empowerment, which is surprising, because when we feel bad, we keep thinking that something is missing, that we need to add something to feel whole.

Actually it’s the other way around!

We need to remove a lot of old crud. More about that throughout the website.

 

Absolute Truth: A Red Herring – or a Different Fish Altogether?

Also, seemingly weird to some people, I talk about truth, love and reality as if they were a sliding scale from relative to absolute. That’s because they are.

Red herring by Uwe Kils and a different fish.

This means that no, not everything is relative, as the expression goes and as many of us have been led to believe. There is actually such a thing as absolute (which contains everything relative).

Of course understanding or even talking about absolute truth, absolute reality and unconditional love is kind of difficult, because our language is specifically designed to describe the relative world, and thus our language doesn’t do well at all when describing that-which-is (truth, reality and love in their more absolute versions).

This is normally not a problem beacause most of us live in a very relative reality anyway. In many of these wildly different personal realities there’s good and bad, heroes and villains and all that sort of stuff. You know, like in the fairy tales or in fiction. Which is appropriate because the more relative your reality is, the more fictional it is, too. A very relative reality is only very relatively real, i.e. not very real at all.

This particular language barrier (which has nothing to do with not being a native English speaker) has been – and still is – one of the greatest challenges I face. How to use relative language to express something less relative? Or, to put it bluntly: How to use the language of unreality to express something more real?

In my mind’s ear I now hear some good folks exclaim, “Wait a minute, now wait just a goddam minute … are you saying that our reality is unreal and that you know better?”

Sure. That’s what I’m saying, pretty much, except for the “I know better” part, which I’d replace with “I know differently.” Let me put it this way:

IF you’re not experiencing contentment, inner peace, freedom, love and joy for no particular reason much of the time, THEN there’s a gap between YOUR reality and a more absolute and true version of reality.

It’s really that simple. Love it or hate it, agree or disagree as you please.

What Do I Know? Not a Lot!

I may seem like a know-it-all, but what do I really know? Not that much. I don’t know anything about you. I don’t even know anything about how all the things I say relate to you, or even if they relate to you.

What I do know better than most, perhaps, is how little I actually know. At some point, fairly recently, I got myself a huge dose of humility, because for some reason I was suddenly able to look at myself, other people and the world and ask “What do I really – really – know?”. My answer was that I know something about myself, and that’s it. I may THINK I know something about life as a whole and how things work, but I may be wrong.

Picture quote by Soren Lauritzen: What I do know better than most, perhaps, is how little I actually know.

This resulted in a long period of me not being able to write anymore, because I didn’t want to write something that wasn’t true (excluding actual fiction), and how should I know what’s true for you? Or indeed anybody other than myself?

Nevertheless, by keeping my focus firmly inside myself (mostly), I now write again. About anything that catches my interest or takes my fancy, but primarily about being human and life as it relates to us humans, most notably myself.

Being human is a big subject, and life is doubly so, but that just makes it all the more interesting and fun.

And Now, a Little Too Late: A Fair Warning

Finally, I want to give you fair warning:

I share whatever I decide is worth sharing – in whatever way I feel might be useful and fun. If you don’t like it, or find it strange, or incomprehensible, or offensive, or whatever, that’s fine, because I don’t need anybody’s approval or disapproval. You’re even welcome to share your point of view in the comments, as long as you play nice. (If you don’t play nice I’ll delete your comment without a second thought).

If you want to try and stick a label on me or this website, feel free. Here’s a bunch to choose from: conformist or non-conformist, interesting or boring, useful or useless, playful or serious, helpful or not helpful, clever/smart/intelligent or naive/stupid/unintelligent, spiritual or unspiritual, religious/pan-religious or non-religious/irreligious/agnostic/atheist, enlightened or non-enlightened, political or non-political, politically correct or not politically correct, funny or unamusing, wise or obtuse, normal or weird. I and this website are probably all of them, anyway, and a lot more, too.

Yep. That’s it. That’s what this website is about. Thanks for reading and have fun!

Your host

Soren Lauritzen

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